Featured in the May, 2015 Issue of the Ashburn Baptist News
Teens live in a trouble-free world. Just listen and find out.
“Better keep track of that new watch Mother and I got you for your birthday,” says dad. But, he left it in the school locker room and now it’s gone. “No problem,” he says. And what do you know, mom got him another one.
“You better study for that test,” says mom. But, he shoots baskets in the driveway instead. “No problem.” The teacher graded on a curve.
Sis screams at him, “Pick up your clothes or you’re going to be in big trouble!” “No problem.” Mom finally picks them up.
Dad says, “You should save your money for camp instead of spending it on CD’s.” “No problem.” When camp time comes, granddad gives him much of it, he throws in a little, and sure enough, dad picks up the balance and off he goes for a week of fun.
“Shouldn’t you return that phone call on the job interview?” asks mom. He didn’t, someone else got the job, but “no problem”, his uncle felt sorry for him and got a part-time job for his nephew where he works even at a little more per hour.
The car was carelessly left in a no parking zone and decorated with a ticket. But, “no problem” the kindly judge, seeing the likes of his own son before him gave the boy a little lecture and dismissed the case with no fine.
Of course, there is “no problem”. Everybody keeps putting his world together for him. Spoiled and ungrateful, he thinks it will be this way until death. Living in a house he has not paid for, wearing clothes he did not purchase, driving a car on which he makes no payments, watching a TV that he does not own, eating food he did not buy nor prepare, he dances through life repeating “no problem”.
When will this kid hit the real world? When will he grow up?
He will grow up just as soon as we let him find out that there are problems and they need to be solved, and not by someone else.
Money may be one measure of maturity. You are below zero when everyone else is paying for everything you have. You are at zero when you are 100 per cent paying your own way in life. You are above zero to the extent that you are using your money to help and care for others as you were once helped and supported.
Of course, there is no magic moment. You do not suddenly mature at 18 or even 21. Maturity comes gradually as you accept responsibility for your actions, blame yourself for your failures, pay your own way, and start making a positive contribution to your own family, your church and the society in which you live.
However, all of this is so painful that it will not be readily taken on unless those who have been paying the bills stop supplying the cash.
Did a bird ever fly who was not first pushed out of the nest?